“Among those at a conference on Monday were Jimmy Greene and his wife, Nelba Marquez-Greene, with a photo of their daughter, Ana, 6, who was killed.
By RAY RIVERA
Published: January 14, 2013
NEWTOWN, Conn. — Nelba Marquez-Greene put her two children on the school bus on the morning of Dec. 14. Only one came home.
Nicole Hockley still finds herself reaching for her son’s hand in parking lots, or expects “him to crawl into my bed for early-morning cuddles before school.”
“It’s so hard to believe he’s gone,” she said.
The grieving mothers and other parents and relatives of victims killed in the Dec. 14 elementary school massacre gathered here at a news conference on Monday to help begin a campaign intended to prevent the kind of bloodshed that has turned this quiet New England community into a national symbol of grief.
In some of their first public statements since the shooting, which killed 20 children and 6 staff members at Sandy Hook Elementary School, the families of 11 of the victims called for a national dialogue on issues of mental health, school safety and what their nonprofit group, called Sandy Hook Promise, described as “gun responsibility.”
The gathering came as President Obama and Vice President Joseph R. Biden Jr. prepared to unveil gun-control proposals as soon as Tuesday that are expected to call for a ban on the kind of assault weapon and high-capacity ammunition magazines used by Adam Lanza in the Newtown shooting.
But perhaps foreshadowing the difficult and contentious debates to come in Washington, group members declined to offer support for any specific measures, saying they needed time to educate themselves on the issues, and emphasizing that the debate must be broader than gun control.
“It’s only been 30 days, and for the past 30 days we’ve really been looking inward and supporting our community,” said Tim Makris, a founder of the group who had a fourth-grade son at the school, who was not hurt.
“We love the focus of the president,” he added, “and we love that the vice president reached out recently to talk directly to the families that chose to meet with him. But we don’t have an immediate response right now.”
Tom Bittman, another founder, who has children who previously attended the school, said that many of the group members were gun owners.
“We hunt, we target shoot,” he said. “We protect our homes. We’re collectors. We teach our sons and daughters how to use guns safely. We’re not afraid of a national conversation in our community and in Congress about responsibility and accountability. We know there are millions of people in this nation who agree with us.”
The news conference, which included other members of the Newtown community, was the first time a group of Sandy Hook families spoke publicly about the tragedy.
The families filed onstage, inside the Edmond Town Hall, holding hands and wearing green and white ribbons, the school’s colors. Some held photographs of their children. As they sat onstage, some wiped away tears.
“I hope that no parent, grandparent or caregiver of children ever has to go through that pain,” said Ms. Marquez-Greene, whose 6-year-old daughter, Ana, died that day. Ana’s father, Jimmy Greene, sat clutching a large photograph of his smiling, curly-haired daughter as his wife spoke.
Jeremy Richman and Jennifer Hensel, the parents of Avielle Richman, 6, who was killed, said they had started a foundation in her name to focus on research to identify “risk factors and measure success of mental health interventions.”
“Like everyone here, we want to bring about changes that will stop a tragedy such as this from happening to any community again,” Mr. Richman said, as he choked back tears.
David and Francine Wheeler, whose son Benjamin, 6, was killed, explained why they joined the campaign.
“I am not done being the best parent I can be for Ben,” Mr. Wheeler said. “Not by a very long measure. If there is something in our society that clearly needs to be fixed or healed or resolved, that resolution needs a point of origin. It needs parents.”
While it was clear the parents and family members were still grasping for answers themselves, they have now joined a sad fraternity of people who have lost loved ones in such tragedies.
Ms. Hockley’s son Dylan, 6, was found dead cradled in the arms of his favorite school aide,Anne Marie Murphy, who died apparently trying to shield him. Ms. Hockley said that she had felt “honored” to meet with the families of victims of past mass shootings like those at Columbine and Virginia Tech.
But, she added, she did not want to be someone “sharing her experience and consoling parents” the next time such a shooting occurred.
“I do not want there to be a next time,” she said.
This article has been revised to reflect the following correction:
Correction: January 14, 2013
An earlier version of this article misspelled the surname of one of the founders of Sandy Hook Promise. He is Tim Makris, not Markis.